Nestmate helps couples and families — especially where someone has ADHD or executive function differences — share the mental load without nagging, resentment, or yet another argument about the dishes.
The lists, the dates, the "did we run out of…", the invisible planning. It's exhausting and it builds quiet resentment.
Asking is the work. And when someone's brain wires differently — ADHD, executive function gaps — being asked lands as criticism.
Generic to-do lists don't know about mental load, partnership dynamics, or the difference between forgetting and not caring.
Nestmate turns your household into a team with the right tools — not pressure, not arguments. Clarity, warmth, and systems that actually hold.
Name your home, add members, assign zones. Everyone sees who owns what — no confusion, no "I thought you were doing it."
Weekly schedules, chore checklists, home agreements, monthly meetings — personalised with your names. Print or use digitally.
Track your mental load, celebrate wins, and catch resentment before it builds. Your private space, your history.
Live task boards you all can see. Recurring tasks set on schedule. The app reminds them — not you.
Optimised task triggers, habit stacks, dopamine-friendly completion — tailored for how your partner's brain actually works.
Ready-to-use phrases for every hard moment — delegating without sounding parental, receiving feedback without defensiveness.
Tasks, calendar, notes, checklists — all connected. When John adds a dentist appointment, Sofia sees it instantly. When Sofia pins the grocery list, it's there for everyone.
Nestmate isn't just for couples. Add kids, grandparents, au pairs — everyone gets a role that matches what they can do. You see everything. They see what's theirs.
Add your partner, kids, a parent who helps out — everyone gets their own account and sees the home through their own lens.
Kids see their own tasks and the shared calendar. No budget, no scripts, no adult content. They can tick off their chores, add notes, and feel part of the home — without the overwhelm.
As admin, you see every member's tasks, completion rates, upcoming events, and notes. One dashboard — the whole household — no chasing anyone for updates.
Sometimes someone needs to see what's happening in the home without being part of running it. Grandparents who help with childcare, an au pair who needs to know the schedule, a co-parent in a shared custody arrangement. The Viewer role is designed exactly for this.
All household events, appointments, and school pick-ups — visible at a glance. No editing, just awareness.
Any note marked "Everyone" is visible to Viewers. Great for leaving instructions, routines, or reminders for whoever is helping out that day.
Viewers are read-only. They cannot create tasks, change events, access the budget, or see private check-ins. The household stays in control.
Communication scripts and personal check-ins are private to the household. A helper doesn't see what's being worked on between partners.
| Admin | Member | Kid | Viewer | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Tasks (own) | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ | — |
| Tasks (all members) | ✓ | — | — | — |
| Shared calendar | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ |
| Shared notes | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ |
| Private notes | ✓ | ✓ | — | — |
| Budget tracker | ✓ | ✓ | — | — |
| Scripts library | ✓ | ✓ | — | — |
| Check-ins | ✓ | ✓ | — | — |
Earn points for every task you finish. Crown a winner weekly and monthly. They pick a fun perk — a chore-skip pass, a sleep-in morning, a day as Admin. It's competition with heart.
Each script has three sections: what not to say, what to try instead, and — crucially — what to say when they got it right. Positive reinforcement rewires behaviour more than correction.
No complicated setup. Just warmth, clarity, and a system everyone will actually use.
Create your home environment, give it a name that feels like yours, and set up who lives there.
Assign zones and recurring tasks. Who owns what is clear from day one — no overlap, no guessing.
Download your personalised templates. Stick the weekly schedule on the fridge.
A private moment to track how you're feeling and what to bring to your monthly review.
Answer a few questions about your home. Get twelve beautifully designed templates with your home name, your names, and your zones — ready to print or use in-app.
+ 6 more templates in the full pack
Get the Template Pack — €9.99 →One subscription covers the whole household. Partners, family, kids — nobody else pays.
Free plan stays free forever · Template Pack is a one-time purchase · Full Partnership covers your entire household
Download Nestmate directly from the Google Play Store. Full app experience, real-time sync, and your whole household on the same page.
iOS version coming soon — join the waitlist
Once the app is installed, creating your home takes one short conversation. You name the home, assign zones, pick a plan — and everything is ready for both of you from day one.
Free to start. No credit card. Your whole household covered under one plan.
5 minutes to set up. Most couples feel a difference in the first week — not because the app is magic, but because having a shared system finally makes the invisible visible.
Free forever · No credit card · One subscription covers your household
Set up your home in 3 minutes. Invite your partner. Watch the mental load get shared — not just talked about. Your free plan stays free forever.